MANY COUPLES are incredibly different, yet that doesn’t mean they can’t work on something they both agree on. People have different views on occasions like these and some Lancers explain how they manage to do it with their partners. It all comes down to do’s and don’ts.

Esteban Naranjo (11) says that he and his lover rely a lot on communication. He likes the idea of having a healthy relationship without cruel jokes that only lead to toxicity. “We don’t want a relationship where these deeds are normalized because they lead to toxicity and ruin longevity,” Naranjo said. And, like everyone, there are times when either one is upset. By upset, it doesn’t mean mad at each other; it’s more about those times when one doesn’t feel very talkative. His partner agrees and has more to add.

Camila De Leon (11) says that her relationship is full of honesty, communication, and understanding, especially when it comes to disagreements. “We listen, we slow down, and try to understand each other to come up with a solution together,” De Leon said. They took the time to get to know each other without rushing. The key in a relationship will always be speaking with truth, as well as respecting one another. “We share our feelings, speak truthfully, respect each other, trust and support each other, and give each other space. We do not do guilt trips, pressure, control, or bottle things up. That is toxic,” De Leon said.

Of course, there are Lancers who have different ways of understanding and spending time together. And when it comes to freedom, other lancers like doing a little bit of everything if possible.

Anjel Loera (10) says that whether they’re out or staying in, as long as he and his partner are together, he sees it as a date. Loera says that he’s more than pleased when they’re together. “No matter if it’s some fancy date or just a casual movie night, spending time with each other is always the best part,” Loera said. Every couple has disagreements, but with mutual respect, there’s not much that communication can’t fix. Loera mentions how keeping a relationship happy and healthy is what helps to have a long-term partner, “I think that to understand my partner, it is important to put myself in their shoes and try to see from both perspectives,” Loera said. His partner agrees with this as well.

Ximena Pena (11) says that she’s been with her partner for three years already, and that what they enjoy the most is being together and doing things they both are comfortable with, “We mostly entertain ourselves by doing stuff we both love,” Pena said. Usually, picking a place to go out with a partner can be difficult, but not for them. “We both pick a list of places, and we decide what we feel like would be fun for both of us,” Pena said.

Lancers may have different ideas about quality time, but something everybody agrees on is that communication is one of the most important things to keep a relationship sane and alive.